This year hasn't been good so far.

robert porterfield · Post by **robert porterfield** » March 23, 2008, 2:34 am

sf so sorry to here of the loss of your grandson your toughts are with us this easter the s.o.b that did that WILL get whats coming to him

but given your loss anything done to him will be minor by compairsion SO SO sorry

Z-MAN · Post by **Z-MAN** » March 23, 2008, 2:53 am

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Austin and your family.

Z

66fordtrucknut · Post by **66fordtrucknut** » March 23, 2008, 5:36 am

Everyone has expressed how I feel too. We will definitely keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Charlie

6Slick5 · Post by **6Slick5** » March 23, 2008, 9:05 am

I have a 5 year old granddaughter and 2 year old grandson. Our lives revolve around them. Their mom is vindictive and we walk on egg shells around her just so we can stay in the kids lives. There is a discussion I have wanted to have with her new boyfriend that I have been putting off. He will get that discussion the next time I see him.

I am praying for you and your family. I have thought many times what I would do in your shoes and can't even begin to imagine what your feeling right now.

Marty

Slick Fan · Post by **Slick Fan** » March 23, 2008, 9:16 am

Thank you all for your warm, heartfelt replies. You're truely a great bunch of folks! It helps a little to tell you guys & talk about it, even though I'm at a loss of words from your warm replies.
I'm doing ok for the most part, but today's going to be tough for my Wife & Son, they had already gotten all Austin's Easter stuff. We're going to the cemetery to see him & play with his toys for a while. Every occasion like this will be rough on them for a while. I hope time will heal the heartache quickly.

I guess I could have picked a better day to post this thread, so I didn't put a cloud on your Easter, sorry about that.

Marty, definitely talk to that boyfriend...find out what sort of person he is, so you don't find out the hard way. I (we) should have definitely interfered a lot more in Whitney's life on Austin's behalf, but we didn't want to be too pushy & have her try & leave with him.
It's a tough area to deal with for sure, invading privacy & all, but it needs to be done. I hope for the absolute best with your situation.

Thanks again for all your great replies, you're all good people!
-Grant

Hoofbeat Racer · Post by **Hoofbeat Racer** » March 23, 2008, 9:18 am

I am reading this as my 9 month old daughter is giggling beside me and a lump is growing in my throat the more I read. I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling. My deepest condolences are with you and your family. May little Austin sleep peacefully. God be with you little child.

ICEMAN6166 · Post by **ICEMAN6166** » March 23, 2008, 12:55 pm

Grant,
our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
its hard reading this and the pics of Austin make it impossible not to shed tears.
since we cannot have kids , it disturbs us all the more to see the mistreatment done by others to those so young with no defense.
i cannot comprehend the reasons or excuses behind it, and it happens far too often in the world today.never expect to hear of it happening to a friend or even someone you know and it is even more shocking to hear that it can.

FORDMANLCRACKEL · Post by **FORDMANLCRACKEL** » March 23, 2008, 3:39 pm

Grant i'm sorry to hear about Austin. I have a granddaughter 2 months older than him, a grandson that just got here in Jan, and one or the other due in Sept., i cant even imagine what you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Austin is in a place now where nothing will ever hurt him ever again. I feel the same as everyone has already stated.

Lonnie

Truckrat · Post by **Truckrat** » March 23, 2008, 4:51 pm

Grant, Everyone has already said what I feel, and from one grandfather to another, May our Lord Jesus be with you and yours and your sweet memories of your grandson until the day comes where you will meet again. TR

ras4434 · Post by **ras4434** » March 23, 2008, 8:19 pm

Grant: For the past 33 years my professional life has been working with people who have gone through some of the same hurt and pain that you are going through. There really is no way to make the pain just go away, especially right now. Some ideas that have worked for others, cry when you can, remember the good times always even when they bring more tears, try not to keep the anger alive towards the offender because it only serves to tear you and your family apart, when ever possible take time to spend with loved ones and may the grace of our lord and savior keep you and your family close during these difficult times. Probably one of the best things you could do would be just what you have done..........let others know whats going on and allow them to help if possible.......My prayers to you and your family.

Rustbucket · Post by **Rustbucket** » March 24, 2008, 8:09 am

Grant, You and your family are in our prayers too. I cant imagine what your going through. I`m so sorry. Dale

Slick Fan · Post by **Slick Fan** » March 24, 2008, 1:58 pm

ras4434 wrote:Grant: For the past 33 years my professional life has been working with people who have gone through some of the same hurt and pain that you are going through. There really is no way to make the pain just go away, especially right now. Some ideas that have worked for others, cry when you can, remember the good times always even when they bring more tears, try not to keep the anger alive towards the offender because it only serves to tear you and your family apart, when ever possible take time to spend with loved ones and may the grace of our lord and savior keep you and your family close during these difficult times. Probably one of the best things you could do would be just what you have done..........let others know whats going on and allow them to help if possible.......My prayers to you and your family.

I won't deny that I haven't entertained thoughts of anger & revenge towards this guy, but that won't help my family, they need me to be strong for them right now...me being in jail won't help the situation.

The past few days, we've been able to share some laughter, remembering some of the things Austin had done. We were able to have some lighthearted moments at the cemetery visit yesterday too, which makes helps take a weight off, if only temporarily. I'm thankful for those moments.

PFM-64f100 · Post by **PFM-64f100** » March 25, 2008, 9:01 am

All is can say SF is to hang in there and be strong which is easier said than done.

fmartin_gila · Post by **fmartin_gila** » March 25, 2008, 9:50 am

Time will help. It will not bring them back, but will ease the pain a little. You will never forget the ones who have passed, but time will enable you to understand things a little better, and to be able to put things in perspective. Every person has to handle these type things somewhat differently. I have lost several loved ones over the years, and it is not a matter of "getting over it" but learning how to handle it as life must go on. Try to keep in mind all the good things the little one brought to your life and to others in your family.
Fred

blackagatha · Post by **blackagatha** » March 28, 2008, 6:07 pm

oh man.... I just found this thread, ive been away for a while. I dont know what to say really. I have no idea how it must all feel for you, relatives, and his mom... that must be the ultimate worst. For her to think that she was responsible for it because she was dating the guy must be the absolute agony. how awful. I am so sorry.